Where are Our Values


As we grow up in our human interactions, our roles change ever so slightly. Once, we looked up to the people ahead of us and all we wanted was to be like them; we were like sponges soaking both the said and unsaid. Observing people with relative influence over our lives and mimicking their every move, long before we knew what was wrong or right. Our underdeveloped sense of morality was the definition of our innocence and made us gullible and susceptible to suggestions and manipulations.
Fast forward a couple of decades and we are back to where we started from. Now we know our right from left but the influences over our lives in those formative years have made indelible marks on our minds. An old saying goes thus ‘what goes into a mind, comes out in a life’. Now we see and interact with the world through the colored glass of our past. Our sense of morality are sometimes skewed and lopsided that we end up with dysfunctional relationships.
What is right? What is wrong? The fine line between them ought not be so, if a chasm was separating them, it would be easier to choose, I reckon. Rewind a decade or two, around the time when we began to carry out mischief, when we started to lie, steal, connive, manipulate and deceive; they were possible because that was what we observed the influences over our lives doing. Saying one thing and doing something totally different does more than insult our young minds back then, it erodes our innocence and sets us up to fail.
In order to make honesty, love, integrity and compassion values that are worthy to live by, we have to go back to the beginning. While it is not too late for you and I to embrace these values, it would have been better if they had been ingrained in our subconscious from inception. This begs the question, ‘what shall we do about the present state of things in the world regarding eroded values?’ The responsibility now rests on us to embrace these wholeheartedly and take deliberate steps to imbibe them into the younger generation. This we will do, if and only if we embrace them wholeheartedly and practice them, live by them.
Young people don’t do what they are told, they do what they observe the influences over their lives do. That is one of the reasons why actors, musicians become popular, the younger generation are easily influenced. Why don’t we use the opportunity wisely and invest in our collective future? The seeds we sow today are the harvest and seeds of tomorrow. Honesty breeds honesty, dishonesty breeds decadence, corruption, and all sorts of vices. We have our consciences to help us discern between right and wrong, however, not all of us listen to its promptings and we have seared it such that we are numb to its nudges. When our sense or compass is out cold, then we can get lost at will and justify our every action. If we want a better society for our children, we will act on this starting now. It begins with you!

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